Miscarriage & Hope

Dearest mama. If this is you and you have experienced this, HUGS.

It is awful and horrible.

It shouldn’t happen. One minute the little life is there, and the next, it’s all pain and agony and bleeding. Then, that little one (or ones) is gone.

God’s heart for you is filled with LOVE. Comfort. Hope. Healing.

I am here today to offer you hope and healing, and to remind you that your future still is bright.

I have been through seven miscarriages, one of which was a set of twins.

I know the pain, the grief, and that feeling like the floor just dropped out from underneath you and there’s now a pit in your stomach. That wild, crazy thought that “maybe it’s just a little blood passing and my baby(ies) will be okay.”

Having an ultrasound done and the heartbeat is gone. Nothing left. Such a sad, cold, empty feeling.

Then the fear that tries to come in and take over the next time you get pregnant.

All. The. Questions.

Mama, it doesn’t matter where in the trimesters you experienced miscarriage. A miscarriage is just that. A miscarriage. Don’t let anyone diminish its significance to you just because of when it occurred.

All that being said, there is HOPE.

Healing!

New life head!

And it is GOOD.

“For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you,’ says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.” - Jeremiah 29:11 AMP

“Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted.” - Matthew 5:4 NKJV

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” - Psalms 34:18 NLT

“and provide for those who grieve in Zion— to bestow on them a crown of beauty instead of ashes, the oil of joy instead of mourning, and a garment of praise instead of a spirit of despair. They will be called oaks of righteousness, a planting of the Lord for the display of his splendor.” - Isaiah 61:3 NIV

Mama, grieve. It’s okay. Mourn what would have been. Take the time to process what happened.

But don’t stay there. Don’t invite Grief into your heart so it becomes a way of life and a prison. It will steal all future hope, healing, and joy from you. And it won’t stop. It’s not your friend.

Allow Jesus into your grief. He will cry with you! Process what happened through His love and His viewpoint. I promise it will bring you such closure and relief. It has for me.

Do I still sometimes grieve the loss of these precious ones? Yes! But that grief no longer has any power over me to ruin my life or to cast a shadow of fear over subsequent pregnancies.

If you need to, break agreement with a spirit of grief. It does exist and it will reside in your heart if you allow it. Renounce it. Ask Jesus and Holy Spirit to heal your heart and to fill in all the spaces where the grief was. Ask Him to fill you up with His hope, peace, and joy! I promise you, He will. He LOVES you so much!!

Mama…it’s going to be okay. You are not alone, and there still is incredible hope and joy for your future!

You. Are. Loved. And seen. And comforted. And healed. In Jesus’ name.

Xoxoxo

Kristi